The impossible
I could not believe my beloved dad was simply gone. The idea that he had stopped existing felt impossible — like imagining the sun disappearing from the sky. He could not have just vanished. After all, energy cannot be created or destroyed.
I had to believe that just because you can't see something, it doesn't mean it isn't there. So, I went looking for my sweet dad on the other side. Along the way, I found countless other bereaved people who shared powerful stories (see groups). Proof, in their own words, that their loved ones were still out there, somewhere, somehow.
A light in the dark
Through my lowest and darkest moments, spirit guides, angels, and my wonderful dad reached out with soft whispers and gentle signs. They let me know I was not alone, that I would be okay, that there is more beyond this visible world.
These glimpses beyond the veil brought so much comfort. Little threads of light weaving their way into the heavy darkness. They could not erase the pain of missing him, but they ever so slightly began to soften its sharp edges.
Growing insights
Gradually, I began to understand, and to hope, believe, and know, that souls are eternal, that there is an unseen world alongside this material one, and that life is far bigger than the days we spend here on Earth.
I learned to step out of that dark place of devastation, where it is so hard for our loved ones to reach us. I discovered that raising my vibration, choosing to focus on the love you feel rather than the ache of missing, was unbelievably hard, but deeply necessary. It helped me tune into that other realm and receive more signs.
Missing forever, loving forever
Believing in the flipside does not mean I stopped grieving or that I no longer miss my dad. Healing takes time, and we may never feel completely whole again. But with small rituals and tender ways of honouring our loved ones, sparks of joy slowly return.
The relationship continues — but in a new form. There is no more physical hearing, touching, holding. Instead, there are subtle visits, whispers in the quiet, moments of intuition. These are how we know they are still near, still loving us, still watching over us.
Continuing the game
Even when someone we love deeply leaves this life, we are still meant to keep playing the game. We came here with a soul plan, challenges to face, lessons to learn, experiences to embrace, karma to balance.
We cannot fulfil that purpose if all our attention stays fixed on the spirit world. Think of it as having a meaningful job alongside cherished relationships on the other side. We must still spend our time and energy in the physical realm, next to cherishing the visits and connections we share with those beyond the veil.
Reasons to heal
When we are trapped in the darkest tunnel of grief, we cannot function. We cannot truly live. But our soul came here to experience life.. To feel joy, to love deeply, to grow, to learn, to fulfil a purpose. We owe it to ourselves to keep living.
And, to tune in more clearly to the flipside, we must let in more light, choosing love and gratitude over the heaviness of grief, remorse, and regret. The higher we lift our own frequency, the closer we draw to the higher frequency of the unseen world, making it easier to connect.
How to let go of grief?
First of all, letting go of grief doesn't mean letting go of your loved one, even though it may feel like it in the beginning. Because the gravity of us missing them is also a way to keep them close. However, we can let go of the heaviest of feelings and keep them just as close, even if that isn’t easy. It is a process, a roller coaster, and often a lonely road. But there are many ways to soften the darkest moments.
No one can tell you exactly how to grieve. Everyone does it differently. Most importantly, there is no timetable. The most important part is to do something with your grief, anything that helps you carry it. Cherish the memories. Feel the pain in your heart. Sit with the thoughts and feelings that come. Cry, rage, share your story. Let it transform you. Let it flow through you, and keep the warmest memories.
I hope this page offers you some inspiration to do just that.