It can also be the start of a powerful spiritual journey and it can open your mind to a bigger picture.
The impossible
I personally felt like it wasn't possible that my beloved dad just wasn't here anmyore. He simply could not have stopped existing completely. He couldn't have just vanished. After all, energy cannot be created or destroyed. I had to believe that just because you can't see something, it doesn't mean it isn't there. So, I went looking for my sweet dad on the other side. There were plenty of other bereaved people who shared powerful stories (see groups) that showed that their loved ones are still out there somewhere somehow.
A light in the dark
Through these lowest and darkest moments, spirit guides, angels ànd my wonderful dad finally did reach out to me with little whispers and signs to just let me know it was ok, that I was going to be ok, that they were there, that there's something more out there. These glimpses beyond the veil were so comforting and consoling and ever so slightly started alleviating the gut-wrenching pain I feel from missing him.
Growing insights
Gradually, I started to develop a better understanding and started to hope, believe and 'know' that souls are eternal, that there is an unseen world next to this material one and that there's a much bigger picture than just our current lives, right here, right now on this earth plane. I got better at leaving that dark place of pure grief and pain, where it is so hard for our loved ones to reach us. This is where 'improving your vibration' and trying to feel the love you have for them instead of the pain from missing them is both unbelievably hard to do, but also very neccesary to help you to better tune in to that other realm and receive more signs.
Missing is for ever, but also loving for ever
However, getting these signs and believing in the flipside does not mean I magically stopped grieving or that I stopped missing my dad. We need time to heal. And we may not ever be whole again. But with little rituals and ways to deal with the absence of our loved ones on this earth plane, it gets a little easier to find sparks of joy again.
The good news is that we can create a continued relationship with our loved ones beyond the veil, but it will be in a much different form than we were used to. There will be no more physical hearing, feeling, touching. It's more subtle, more whispers, more intuitive. But this way, we can learn to *know* they are checking up on us, that they are still around us, that they still love us, and that we can still get in touch with them.
Continuing the game
Nonetheless, even if there's a player we love so dearly who's left the game, we are still supposed to continue the game. We had set out a soul plan and a challenge for ourselves to tackle in this physical realm. Lessons we wanted to learn, experiences we wanted to have, challenges we wanted to overcome, karma we wanted to clean up. We can't do that when our attention is always aimed at the spirit world. Look at it like having a meaningful job, where we spend most of our time and focus, next to meaningful relations with so many other family members and friends we like spending time with. We still need to and want to spend time and energy here, next to the visits we can pay our loved ones on the other side of the veil.
Reasons to heal
When we are deeply stuck in the dark tunnel of grief, we can not function. We cannot truly 'live'. Our soul is here to experience life. To have fun. To feel joy and love. To fulfil a purpose. To learn lessons. So we owe it to ourselves to keep living it.
Secondly, to truly be as in tune as possible to the flipside, means we need to allow for more light and a more positive and loving attitude than the darkness of grief, remorse, regret and missing them. Uplifting our own frequency brings us closer to the higher frequency of the unseen world and it will be easier to get in touch.
How to let go of grief?
Even though it's not easy, it's a process and a roller coaster, as well as a lonesome journey, there are a lot things you can try to deal with the darkest of moments. There are also a lot of ways to clear or calm our minds, to be more open to feel the presence of our loved ones in a different form instead of focusing on their absence in this material world.
No one can tell you how to do it. There are plenty of ways to grieve, everyone grieves differently and most importantly: there is no timeframe. The most important part is that we do something with. Anything you want. Cherish the memories, simply feel the pain in our hearts, sit with any thoughts or feelings that may come up, cry, be angry, share how you feel, let it transform, heal from it,...
I hope this page offers you some inspiration to do just that.